Is it really possible to give good relationship advice that covers every person? No, of course not. Many like me are single, happy and fulfilled. Recently I found myself in a new situation, my baby boy turned 18 and is now a legal adult. Legally I have no one to care for other than myself and that is an insane feeling to me. Now, for the first time since I have been a teenager, I find myself in this situation.
Prepare for A Good Death
I am preparing myself and my family for my good death. This may sound morbid to some, but I actually entertain my absence from this place joyfully. Death is no big deal unless you did not do what you were supposed to do. My death will cleanse me of this weak mortal flesh that needs constant attention and unique circumstances to keep alive. I’ll look through that one way glass from the other side to see the lives I touched. No, I do not have a death wish, just curiosity.
Relationship Happiness
If you put 2 happy people together, chances are they will be happy. If you put 2 miserable people together, chances are they will be miserable. If you put a happy person and a miserable person together, chances are they will both be miserable. This is not an exact calculation, of course, but the point is if you want to be happy then work on yourself first. Then unite yourself with a happy person.
What Is A Happy Person?
A happy person is one that does not live in poverty. Poverty is the person who always thinks the grass is greener on the other side. They are always in want and wish for a thing after thing instead of enjoying the moment. A happy person is an Alpha person who believes in love and compassion. An Alpha Stoic does not believe that comfort is the answer to life’s challenges. The Alpha does not go from partner to partner to feed their ego. A happy person is a strong person, a strong person is an Alpha Stoic!
The Challenge and Fate {Amor Fati}
So the big challenge is finding someone in the world that actually believes this way, right? No, do not waste your time! Let fate be the judge and if the need be providence will furnish you a partner. Know who you are first and your worth. Work with nature and not against it. Do not give into your wants or desires unless you want to be poor! Do not try to make something happen, but be harmonious with what fate has provided you. Again, if you are in want or desire, you are poor and need to grow rich before you can be an excellent partner to an Alpha Stoic.
Marriage Material
I had a woman tell me she was “Marriage Material”. That provoked a thought in my mind, “What is Marriage Material”? I believe I laid out the basics for “Marriage Material” in the above paragraphs, at least for an “Alpha Stoic”. However, I like to think that I have love and compassion in my heart that another could appreciate. To me, marriage is a devoted partnership that the material world has nothing to do with. I think as soon as materalisim enters a marriage then it is over. Love based upon materialism is not love, but poverty.
Have Their Back
If there is no support in a relationship of any kind, then your relationship is a farce, yes? In a romantic relationship, the stakes are higher, right? You vow to share this physical, emotional, spiritual experience with this person until death, so what could be more important than support? So if there is one thing that is the most important, it is this, BE THERE 100%!
Cosmic Marriage
Oh no, now the mystic in me surfaces. I think it to be appropriate because I am not really free unless I am free to be as twisted as I want to be. Some have found their soul mates, some have not. Many of us have worked against providence to our own disappointment. There are also many of us who have been fooled or did not see the clear sign of deception. Working against a natural order is folly.
They hide the greatest mysteries of life in plain sight, no? How about a cosmic marriage that is eternal like the sun and moon? The constellations in the universe purposed to be together. Is there a designated partner, at least for some time in this place for everyone? Perhaps. Amor Fati, let fate decide and then love it with all your heart!