Fear Is Learned

In this letter I would like to address “fear”. There seems to be an “instinctual fear” and a “learned fear” does there not? For example I presume that we are born without fear. I do not believe a baby is in fear of being hungry I believe they are pissed because of hunger pains and that this is what makes them cry.

The learned fear is much more complex is it not? For example one person may have a fear of heights and the other can be a sky diver. I have a close friend that will not even row in a canoe because they are afraid of water.

In this country ignorance also plays apart of some peoples fear. I cannot help but think of guns, racism & technology that continue to breed fear from the ignorant.

It is my desire that you boys learn to work with your fear and use it as a teacher instead of a hindrance. There is a healthy fear that I believe that you boys have naturally developed. As you were raised you were crafted to show respect, dignity and consideration for others as well as yourselves. If I found you lacking then I administered discipline to guide you to a more noble way.

Please remember the greatest fear should be that of losing your virtue. There are many things people can take and steal from you, your virtue is not one of them, you would have to surrender that in order to lose it.

There are many religious cults that breed fear to their people, this fear in turn breeds hatred. Stay away from the religions that claim that they are the only true religion. Stay away from religions that slander other religions. Stay away from religions that have spectacular theatrics. God knows who you are, he does not need a religion or another human to tell you what he thinks.

Did you know some people are afraid to love? It’s true. They are so weak, timid and shy and the fear of being hurt because of not having love returned is too much for them. I say have unconditional love and experience the freedom that comes with that. Love someone and do not be afraid to be hurt. Let love be your guide in life and most of all do not forget to love yourself. If you do not know how to love yourself unconditionally they you will never know how to love another.

Love Dad

p.s. “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself” – Franklin D. Roosevelt 1932

True Strength A Virtue

I once read that a man said, “Until I expire I shall not take away my integrity from myself.” I gave this much thought when I was younger but did not get the sense of it. It sounded like a powerful statement. Now let me try to attempt to explain it to you my sons. There may be things that happen in your life that will test your fortitude, your faith & what you believe in. If it is not some skeptic trying to convince you of agnostic or atheism then it is a circumstance that you may have to endure.

It is true, I lost my faith when your eldest brother Stephen died. “How can the innocent die,?” I told myself. Not outwardly but inwardly I was very lost. My foundations were shaken and compounded by losing my first family a couple years earlier. I was never one to feel sorry for myself, that is not my way. I looked for strength in logic and rational reasoning. I studied all different kinds of philosophy and began to make progress with the oneness and soundness of my mind.

About this time you two boys and your sister Faith came along into my life. Wow, what an amazing gift for me I thought. Maybe someone is rewarding me for my strength, my fortitude? Then another devastating blow, your sister Faith was killed, then I was infected with Lyme’s disease shortly afterwards. It was all I could do to drag myself out of bed, my mind was cloudy I had a very hard time thinking.

It’s a good thing that I am not a superstitious man, I would be thinking that someone really hated me in the universe. Just imagine what that would do to someone’s psyche who was superstitious?

You see, I was shown what true strength is. Many people will tell you they are strong but I am not sure if they know what they are saying. I would of rather of been weak and not have those things happen to me. I no longer desire to have my strength tested, the cost is way too high. However Armor Fati, I will accept my fate and live it the best I can.

The man who made the statement, “Until I expire I shall not take away my integrity from myself.” was a man named Job. He had 10 children that were killed, all his riches taken away and he was infected with a severe disease of boils all over his body. It was in this state that he uttered those words. I think that I now understand more than most what that powerful statement meant.

Never give up your virtue, it is the only thing that will never die unless you kill it. There are many things or circumstances that may attempt to take it from you but only you have the power to kill your own virtue. Your virtue is your integrity to what you value.

Defend what you believe in with silence. Never cast your pearls before pigs. The one who challenges your virtue is not worthy of it. One with true strength does not need his virtue approve by others. Do not look for acceptance of your virtue from others.

Love Dad