Be Still and Quiet | Meditate | Learn From Yourself

As you are very well aware I am a great admirer of Marcus Aurelius the King of Rome. I can only imagine all the distractions that this man had. He no doubt worried about his kingdom with people coming to him with all sorts of issues. Even being the most powerful man on earth in his time the things he went through could of made him very weary and perhaps lost but they didn’t, why?

Stoicism kindly found a way for him to be still and quiet. It was his balance in life that brought sanity to his busy mind. He found a quiet place to journal to keep himself in check with humility. No wonder why he is considered to be Romes greatest king by the people.

You my sons will no doubt be busy men but I hope that you take the time for yourselves to be quiet all by yourself. Journal as often as you can to keep your thoughts in check. Remember your virtue as you journal and see life through those glasses. Perfection is attainable and do not let the skeptics convince you otherwise.

You can be liberal or conservative depending on the situation and company present. You can be all kinds of things to many different kinds of people. However, make sure that you are yourself in private. Know who you are and what you believe and write it down. No one needs to read it but you to learn from yourself.

Your strength will come from your weakest and most trying experiences so never be afraid. Never be afraid to fail but, fail forward. Be fulfilled in your choices and content with the things that you cannot control.

All the years I have been writing you letters I have had to do it in the still and quiet so that I can hear my thoughts speak to me. You can indeed find peace in such places and the energy is good. Your meditations will be your shield and protection, they will be your strength and your might.

Love Dad

Self Worth A Great Lesson

I would like to talk to you about a buried treasure that I found out about several years back. The old man that told me about it drew me a map. He had silver hair and a receding hair line with many kind lines on his face. His eyes were a golden brown and he had a voice that rumbled when he spoke. You could hear the sound of his heavy footsteps across the building as he walked. The pencil in his hand looked like a toothpick as he began to draw.

Now before I tell you the rest of the story I think it is appropriate that I give you a background on why this man felt the need to draw me a map. You see sometimes people lose their way in life, they get lost. They need a guide that connects the unfamiliar with the familiar. Sometimes people are too young, gullible or confused to realize they have went astray.

There is no GPS that can take you to this particular treasure, no this treasure is something no shovel can dig and no metal detector can discover. However this treasure is in a very real place and I assure you that it does exist. I also have the map to prove it, I have had it for almost 50 years now.

So lets get back to the story. The old man drew a circle and in that circle he drew 2 eyes a nose and a mouth. I said, “Who the heck is that Grandpa?” He said, “That is you!”.

You see my sons, my grandfather had a special way of communicating to me what self worth was. He taught me that I was very valuable and what I thought mattered. I was a treasure to my grandfather much like the both of you are a treasure to me.

Remember to take care of yourself. You cannot take care of anyone else unless you learn to take care of yourself.

ps. You both owe me 50 push ups.

Love Dad

Fear Is Learned

In this letter I would like to address “fear”. There seems to be an “instinctual fear” and a “learned fear” does there not? For example I presume that we are born without fear. I do not believe a baby is in fear of being hungry I believe they are pissed because of hunger pains and that this is what makes them cry.

The learned fear is much more complex is it not? For example one person may have a fear of heights and the other can be a sky diver. I have a close friend that will not even row in a canoe because they are afraid of water.

In this country ignorance also plays apart of some peoples fear. I cannot help but think of guns, racism & technology that continue to breed fear from the ignorant.

It is my desire that you boys learn to work with your fear and use it as a teacher instead of a hindrance. There is a healthy fear that I believe that you boys have naturally developed. As you were raised you were crafted to show respect, dignity and consideration for others as well as yourselves. If I found you lacking then I administered discipline to guide you to a more noble way.

Please remember the greatest fear should be that of losing your virtue. There are many things people can take and steal from you, your virtue is not one of them, you would have to surrender that in order to lose it.

There are many religious cults that breed fear to their people, this fear in turn breeds hatred. Stay away from the religions that claim that they are the only true religion. Stay away from religions that slander other religions. Stay away from religions that have spectacular theatrics. God knows who you are, he does not need a religion or another human to tell you what he thinks.

Did you know some people are afraid to love? It’s true. They are so weak, timid and shy and the fear of being hurt because of not having love returned is too much for them. I say have unconditional love and experience the freedom that comes with that. Love someone and do not be afraid to be hurt. Let love be your guide in life and most of all do not forget to love yourself. If you do not know how to love yourself unconditionally they you will never know how to love another.

Love Dad

p.s. “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself” – Franklin D. Roosevelt 1932

True Strength A Virtue

I once read that a man said, “Until I expire I shall not take away my integrity from myself.” I gave this much thought when I was younger but did not get the sense of it. It sounded like a powerful statement. Now let me try to attempt to explain it to you my sons. There may be things that happen in your life that will test your fortitude, your faith & what you believe in. If it is not some skeptic trying to convince you of agnostic or atheism then it is a circumstance that you may have to endure.

It is true, I lost my faith when your eldest brother Stephen died. “How can the innocent die,?” I told myself. Not outwardly but inwardly I was very lost. My foundations were shaken and compounded by losing my first family a couple years earlier. I was never one to feel sorry for myself, that is not my way. I looked for strength in logic and rational reasoning. I studied all different kinds of philosophy and began to make progress with the oneness and soundness of my mind.

About this time you two boys and your sister Faith came along into my life. Wow, what an amazing gift for me I thought. Maybe someone is rewarding me for my strength, my fortitude? Then another devastating blow, your sister Faith was killed, then I was infected with Lyme’s disease shortly afterwards. It was all I could do to drag myself out of bed, my mind was cloudy I had a very hard time thinking.

It’s a good thing that I am not a superstitious man, I would be thinking that someone really hated me in the universe. Just imagine what that would do to someone’s psyche who was superstitious?

You see, I was shown what true strength is. Many people will tell you they are strong but I am not sure if they know what they are saying. I would of rather of been weak and not have those things happen to me. I no longer desire to have my strength tested, the cost is way too high. However Armor Fati, I will accept my fate and live it the best I can.

The man who made the statement, “Until I expire I shall not take away my integrity from myself.” was a man named Job. He had 10 children that were killed, all his riches taken away and he was infected with a severe disease of boils all over his body. It was in this state that he uttered those words. I think that I now understand more than most what that powerful statement meant.

Never give up your virtue, it is the only thing that will never die unless you kill it. There are many things or circumstances that may attempt to take it from you but only you have the power to kill your own virtue. Your virtue is your integrity to what you value.

Defend what you believe in with silence. Never cast your pearls before pigs. The one who challenges your virtue is not worthy of it. One with true strength does not need his virtue approve by others. Do not look for acceptance of your virtue from others.

Love Dad