Memento Mori | Remember That You Must Die | Stoicism

Death is as natural as conception, My father died the other day of COVID-19 it was not death that made me sad, it was the end of “memory making” in this life form. Should I not actually be happy for my father, he no longer suffers. Should I not be grateful for the memories we made? I am grateful for death’s door because when it comes knocking I will let it in just like the birth of a child. Do people really fear the unknown? If so, what about before you were conceived in this life form? Were you afraid then? That, of course, was “The Unknown” as well. It is silly to worry about death and I say this after I have buried 2 of my children, my sister and my father. Memento Mori, “Remember That You Must Die” but don’t worry about it just like you never worried about being born because death in all reality is a natural re-birth. Understand the concept of being “Stoic”; We do not worry about the “Inevitable” we deal with what we have control over at this very moment, right now.

The Most Important Moment

The most important moment of your life is right here, right now. Thank you for sharing this moment with me! There is no other greater moment than this because this is the only moment that you have control over. Ten seconds from now or ten seconds ago are not here or gone entirely. There is no getting back the past and furthermore there is never any possibility of living in the future. Stop, sit back, breathe and realize this.

The Most Important Place

The most important place is where you are right now, ironic isn’t it? The most important things in your life deal with the here and now, and nothing else matters. You may “anticipate” your next move I encourage it however live in the here and now.

This is your place, you occupy it; you own it; it is yours! Think about it, even if someone else is throwing you out from the place you stand in the next ten seconds, they can never erase the fact that you owned that space with your existence in it.

Stoicism & Virtues

Your “Virtues” are the most important thing in Stoicism because that is what you have control over in your space. Your virtues are the most important thing in your life. The only place and time that you have to practice such a noble character is right here and right now! Let this be your craft, let this be your guide.

Stoics Are Everywhere

I could not help but think of an old friend of mine when writing the above material. I do not want to put him on the spot, but his name is Bob, and he ran a crane in the shipping and receiving department at a place in New Castle, Pennsylvania.

I was a trucker at the time and visited Bob nearly every day and sometimes several times a day. I made it my resolve that no matter where I went that I would have a positive attitude, wave to everyone and have a smile on my face. I would “Own The Moments” by practicing this. I would change the atmosphere and change my world.

I worked at the place for a few weeks, then I met Bob. Well, guess what? Bob beat me to the resolve. He beat me to the smile, to the wave and the positive attitude. I almost felt jealous at the time, but then knew that was going to be my favorite place to go. Yes, it was. Sometimes I would stay even after I could have left just to talk to Bob, and I chose loads that took me to that place.

Well, not only did Bob manifest these qualities, but I noticed that everyone that worked with Bob manifested these qualities. He infected everyone around him with his positiveness.

Bob’s Test

Well, after a year or two went by, I saw Bob at the main plant in a guard shack where I frequently stopped to check in and out. I saw that Bob had lost quite a bit a weight and there he was with that big smile and positive attitude. Bob then informed me he had a serious case of sugar diabetes and that caused his severe weight loss. I thought to myself, and you are telling me this with a smile on your face and a positive attitude? Bob continued, “Just look at the weight I lost!”

Although concerned about my friend, I am sure he could see it on my face I did not succumb to a negative response. I knew that Bob would just turn it around to something positive, anyway. So I responded with, “Bob’s weight loss plan!”. We both laughed but Bob being the Stoic I knew he was; replied, “Well, we will see what happens.” I knew he was taking it one moment at a time, like he did his entire life, like a true Stoic does.

That was years ago, and Bob is still alive and well today. I have not seen him in a minute or two, but I remain hopeful.

Much love, respect and honor to you all!

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Drama Queens | Christians | Social Media Theatrics | Dishonesty

Marcus Aurelius did not appreciate the theatrics of some people. It turned him off so to speak so that when commenting about Christians he remarked that he did not appreciate their theatrics. Even though I am a Christian and a devout believer in Jesus Christ as Lord and King of the Universe I too do not appreciate or value the theatrics people display weather they are Christians or not. I believe it cheapens the message and individual so to speak therefore, let me elaborate.

In marketing today there is much dishonesty through “hype” or “theatrics” just to sell something. Furthermore, we hear expressions like “Oh My God”, people use terms like this for the “drama effect” or to present their “self righteous indignation”. So this “marketing” effect has made its way into everyday lives where comments are “Over the top”. We see their comments on social media; although entertaining, sometimes these people are really seeing their lives in this theatrical nightmare. Possibly to add some excitement to their already dull and boring existence or so they think? I am sure you have seen the drama kings and queens on display touting their self righteousness.

I believe sincere people like Stoics should refrain from these kinds of theatrics when communicating a serious message like the Christian or Stoic message. Sure, there is a time to be funny but the constant theatrical display of some people make me avoid them altogether.

Love Dad

“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”
― Marcus Aurelius

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The Ontological Argument | Does God Exist? | The Best Evidence | Stoic Thoughts

I want to discuss with you a situation that may assume at times “The Ontological Argument”. The ontological argument is the argument that assumes God exists. Now, weather God exists in one particular form or another does not matter, you still have a life to live. However there are several situations that arise from time to time that infer the existence of a higher consciousness. Instead of dogmatically refusing to believe and skeptically destroying oneself it may be wise to explore the inference. What do you really have to be afraid of anyway? It will not change your circumstances one way or another because what is, simply is.

This will be my final letter to you for the year of 2019 and this year has been marred with much confusion and hate politically speaking. The situation I am referring to is the political unrest and lies spewed forth from certain political parties. Lying by omission is still a lie which they tend to utilize to its fullest potential. The outright blatant lies spewed forth from the media purposely to mislead people has been the highest point of disgust.

There has always been a struggle of good and evil and the evidence for this has been blatantly abundant in these recent years. So how does one keep his composure, his dignity and grace? The answer is our stoic belief that we will only worry about what we can control and do not worry about what you do not have any control over.

Governor Huckabee said it well when he indicated that our war is not of flesh and blood but with evil entities that seek to destroy us. In my prayers I pray that you become one in body, mind, soul and spirit with the fruitages of the Spirit. Binding yourself to every good virtue is for a protection.

So one may ask about all this hocus pokus and indicate that they do not believe in the existence of God however I beg to ask then, do these fruits of the spirit actually exist? Namely can we say that love really exists without a lover? Can kindness exist without compassion? Can faith exist without hope? Need I go on? None of this is scientific but is it true? Of course it is because these things actually exist and they existed long before this worlds creation.

Love Dad

Crows pick out the eyes of the dead, when the dead have no longer need of them; but flatterers mar the soul of the living, and her eyes they blind. – Epictetus

Flatterers : a person who lavishes praise, often insincerely; a sycophant.

It escapes me to imagine any greater concept than but what is to describe the circumstance of everything we have presently to prescribe existence to an illusive entity, yet I do believe this would be necessary considering the circumstances and the virtues we now have. In short, virtues are impossible without a virtue giver and if in fact virtues actually exist it seems logical that they predate the one practicing them. – Maximus

The Ontological Argument Does God Exist The Best Evidence Stoic Thoughts
The Ontological Argument Does God Exist The Best Evidence Stoic Thoughts
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why you picked that Epictetus quote
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a stoic conversation
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stoics speaking about nothing
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stoics speaking about nothing cont

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Compassion The Beginning Of Eternal Wisdom | Stoic Philosophy

My twilight hour seems to come between 2 A. M. and 5 A. M. at any time during those hours I am given strange dreams. I do not share them all but some of them I write down in my notebooks. This morning my dream showed that I was embracing a skeleton. It was kind of strange because never before had I embraced a skeleton and the thought is kind of morbid to me while awake. However, while I was dreaming I felt so comfortable embracing this skeleton. I rubbed my fingers across its skull then touched the spinal column and was so intrigued that my curiosity was on fire. I then had a thought, who was this skeleton that I was embracing? The answer came out of the Universe and to my surprise told me that it was me!

I am convinced that we must embrace our physical mortality. However, at the same time I asked the universe what is the most important thing to live by? I needed to know to teach my sons and daughters the correct way. It was the plainest words to my ears, I heard “Intelligence IS NOT the apex of existence, Compassion is!”. It was a forceful and authoritative tone and very convincing.

I merely discovered this river and I am passing on what I received to you. The concept of compassion is greater than any one of us and is the beginning of eternal wisdom. Others drink from this same river but never share, others are still looking and still others are just plain out of touch. So you knowing this are far ahead of someone who does not!

Journal daily please because by this you will come to know yourself. Journaling also advances the way to self-improvement which also will reveal interesting things about yourself and others.

Weather dreams are warnings, advice, non-sense, or a way to communicate with high entities try to write them down. I know it sucks when you’re young to get up and write them down when they come to you at 3 A.M but we are also designed to forget them. So use self-discipline get up and write them down!

Anyway, its almost Christmas 2019 and Harley, you are coming home for 10 days. I will value every moment you are home with us.

Memento Mori

Love Dad

“No school has more goodness and gentleness; none has more love for human beings, nor more attention to the common good. The goal which it assigns to us is to be useful, to help others, and to take care, not only of ourselves, but of everyone in general and of each one in particular.” — Seneca, On Clemency 3.3

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Life Girls Clothes Friends And LIFE Again | Poetic Justice

Honestly, did you think your entire life was going to be peaches and cream? When I was 16 I was trying to fit in. What kind of music should I listen too? What girls should I like and why? What should my attire be made of? How do I know if someone is a bull shitter or sincere? What kind of friends should I have or should I accept anyone as a friend? And that was just the beginning of my confusion.

Like every other 16 year old I made all the wrong decisions because my enlightenment was not granted, yes I learned the hard way but you do not have to. At 16, 17 or even 18 into your 20’s and some even into their 30’s are not grasping basic fundamentals in this game we call life.

Tell me what your needs are and I will tell you they will change. Priorities are life sustaining decisions whether you know it or not. A sniveling little brat knows nothing of their priorities but expects them all to be provided to them as a right, a demand if you will. The worst thing a parent could do to that type of child is to enable them.

The army when accepting new recruits now just assumes that every young person joining is a self centered, self entitled spoiled moron, furthermore they are 90% right! Oh what decadence has become of this generation! It’s hard for any normal person to stomach them let alone an employer!

So what happened you may ask? The issue is simple, lack of self discipline. You see in this game we call life there are people that have self-discipline and those that lack self-discipline and the disgusting thing about it all is they do not care. Many are so self entitled even though they have never worked for a thing in their life, they believe they are owed just for being born!

How do we correct this problem? Simple, abstinence! Let them starve for everything. No internet, no privileges, no smart phone, nada nothing at all except maybe bread and water. This means all comforts, yes hot water is a comfort, it is not necessary. This helps them realize the graciousness of their parents by giving them “comforts” or “privileges” one step at a time. This means “limited internet” maybe 20 minutes a day, maybe hot water with a 5 minute shower.

Well, you may say, that is a little drastic don’t you think? You tell me what is worse the above solution or a full grown person who is debilitated because they know not how to care for themselves. Teaching appreciation solves the issue on the other hand “enabling” contributes to the delinquency.

The major problem is we have candy ass parents not willing to be the “bad guy” for their children. Next thing you know they are wrapped up with the justice system and wondering where they went wrong. Here is poetic justice, you get what you deserve! Amen!

Love Dad
ps. make my grandchildren exactly like you and I will be a happy grandpa!

“You get what you deserve. Instead of being a good person today, you choose instead to become one tomorrow.” —Marcus Aurelius

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Life Girls Clothes Friends And LIFE Again Poetic Justice

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Abnormal Things Are Wonderful

I have had some enchanted experiences in my lifetime and recognized them as such even from an early age. In fact I inherently felt that such an abnormal thing was not suppose to happen and for me to be a witness of it was more of a curse or burden than a blessing.

The mechanistic world is lost because it does not understand poetry or philosophy and that my sons is where the real truth comes from. By these means we can truly begin to understand love, gratitude, feeling and more. Oh I might be an old sap however I am sure these means may explain better my situation and predicament as well.

Abnormal things are wonderful because they blow apart the mechanistic paradigm that culturally indoctrinates us all even without us realizing what is happening to us. There is no doubt strange things exist but what is even stranger is the hard core skeptics that make fools of themselves explaining strange things in a mechanistic way.

The majestic waterfall fills our hearts with joy and wonderment. It is so satisfying to take it all in and experience the fresh air and the great sound of waters crashing against the water beneath. It even becomes more wonderful when you share that moment with someone you love. No one can take those feelings of love and admiration away from you unless you let them.

The skeptic however will try to steal your moment by talking a bunch of scientific gibberish that does not even matter. Furthermore it would be more admirable for him to be able to talk out of his ass because it would be more amusing.

I am playing, I am dancing to this symphony called life! It is not a problem for me to enjoy it, it would be a problem for me not to enjoy it. A mechanistic world view looks for reason not to enjoy life and to explain it away as a problem. Do not think too much, in everything there is moderation and peace.

Moment Mori

Love Dad

“It is the power of the mind to be unconquerable.”
― Seneca

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abnormal things are wonderful

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Getting The Most Out Of Your Human Experience | Amor Fati

I wanted to write to you about getting the most out of your human experience. As you know we are spirit beings having a human experience as I have expressed to you in the past. It does not matter what other people believe, by the time they all figure it out they will be long dead and gone from this place and moved on. So in this respect time is not on the skeptics side as it never is.

First and foremost I wanted to mention practice being in this present moment. Previously I mentioned the importance of “Memento Mori” which is “Remember That You Must Die”. However, before you know it, this human experience will be gone and what was it all for really? Well the mystery of life is not to solve a problem but to have the experience. I give my closest friends a token to remind them to appreciate their own human experience in the form of a coin.

I feel my time is short and I cannot express all what I need to before the my clock runs out and my universe changes. Not even 100 more years would be enough.

The deep dark sewers of depression are easily avoided if you only follow my instructions. You have 3 things to look after mind, body and spirit. To forgive all is to understand all. This means having no guilt about anything. In other words forgiving yourself about anything and everything is essential no matter how many times that you have been wrong in the past. Therefore your growth will be optimal.

Compassion is essential in your human experience. One without compassion is a cesspool of loathing. Being compassionate with yourself is good practice then compassion with others is possible. Empathy, consideration, love and all good and wonderful things need to be apart of your human experience to get the most out of it.

Amor Fati

Love Dad

“Think of the life you have lived until now as over and, as a dead man, see what’s left as a bonus and live it according to Nature. Love the hand that fate deals you and play it as your own, for what could be more fitting?” – Marcus Aurelius

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getting the most out of our human experience

Stoic Principles To Live By | Stoicism Finding Fulfillment

These are great and wonderful Stoic principles to keep in mind. You could call them rules but in Stoicism there really are not rules per say.

Don’t be overheard complaining…even to yourself (Marcus)
Don’t put on airs about your self-improvement (Epictetus)
Don’t overindulge in eating or drinking (Musonius)
Don’t speak more than you listen (Zeno)
Don’t avoid difficulty (Seneca)
Don’t tie your identity to the clothes you wear, things you own (Cato)
Don’t conceal what you truly believe (Arius Didymus)
Don’t go along just to get along (Agrippinus)
Don’t be all about business (Marcus)
Don’t put off to tomorrow what can be finished today (Seneca)
Don’t shun people you disagree with (Seneca)
Don’t sleep the day away (Marcus)
Don’t neglect your friendships (Seneca)
Don’t waste time thinking you are going to live forever (all)

I got the above list from my friends at The Daily Stoic and thought they did a good job!

Comfort Is The Enemy | Pain Is Your Friend

I’m curious, is seeking too much pleasure and comfort a circular thought? I’m sincere here, if all one seeks is pleasure and comfort there has to be a point when it is too much or turns back into pain or even torture. Ironic isn’t it that pleasure and comfort will eventually turn into pain one way or another in the future?

A knife does not cut itself and a fire does not burn itself; neither do lips kiss themselves. What do I mean by this? There needs to be a relation, a balance if you will. We cannot have good without evil and we cannot have evil without the good. They would simply not be discernible.

For example; what is the opposite of “ognals”? Damned if I know either, I just made that word up but I am sure if we knew the meaning there would be an opposing side, right? Therefore we always think in relationships. Eventually there has to be a balance and Lord knows you do not want to wait until death to realize it.

When it comes to pleasure and comfort or suffering and pain you must partake of both. Better is it that these are in your control than let fate or worse yet the Universe to balance it out. This is not Karma, totally different but I am speaking of natural processes. I have written enough on Karma in the past and it has nothing to do with nature.

Oh should we pity the ignorant? Should we pity those who stuff themselves with junk and garbage even though they do it of their own free will? Should we pity the couch potato? Sure we should, perhaps those people are our balance by ingesting all the garbage the we do not. Maybe this is Darwinian Natural selection?- pun intended.

Either way, I believe you boys should encourage all your friends to eat healthy and live good lives. Do not seek pleasure or comfort, let it naturally happen. It is much better that way anyway. Keep reading Jerry Kyles writings, this man knows what he is talking about. When you learn from the wise you become wiser and jump way ahead of your peers.

Remember to have compassion, empathy and love. I am convinced there is nothing greater in this world that those virtues.

Memento Mori

Love Dad

It is a sin to pursue pleasure as a good and to avoid pain as a evil.
Marcus Aurelius

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